Blood blisters are caused by skin trauma, such as forcible pinching. The result is a red, fluid-filled bump that can be very painful to the touch. While most blood blisters are not serious and will eventually go away on their own, it is important to learn how to treat a blood blister to minimize discomfort and prevent infection. There are a number of steps you can take at home in blood blister treatment to ensure the blister heals in its entirety.
Remove pressure from the blood blister. Start by eliminating any pressure and exposing the blister to the air. You want to make sure nothing rubs against it, or presses down on it. Exposing it to the air allows it to start healing naturally. If it is not under any pressure, it will stay intact and the chances of it tearing or bursting and becoming infected are lessened.
Apply ice to the blister if it is painful immediately after the injury. Ice packs can be applied to the area for 10 to 30 minutes at a time. You can do this to reduce the pain and cool it if it is warm and throbbing. Icing the blister can be done regularly too, not just immediately after the injury.
Don’t place ice directly on the skin, since this can cause a cold burn. Instead, place a towel between the ice and the skin to protect the injured area.
Gently applying Aloe Vera gel to the blood blister can ease pain and swelling.
Under normal circumstances, do not pop the blood blister. It may be enticing, but popping the blister could lead to infection and delay the body’s natural healing process. If the blood blister is on the foot, try not to put extended pressure on it.
Keep it exposed to the air. Most blood blisters will heal on their own over time, but keeping the area clean and dry will allow the healing process to go as quickly as possible. Keeping it exposed to the air helps the healing process, but also limits the chances of infection.
Reduce any friction or pressure. If your blood blister is in an area that would normally be rubbing up against something, such as your heel or toe, take precautions to limit the friction against the blister. It is more likely to tear or burst if it is subject to a lot friction, which is caused when it rubs up against another surface, such as your shoe. Using a plaster is the most straight-forward way to do this.
You can get certain donut-shaped plasters than reduce the friction while still leaving the blister exposed so it heals more quickly.
Protect it with a bandage. Blisters that rub against something regularly, such as those on the feet or fingers, can be covered with a loose bandage for additional protection. Bandages lower the pressure on the blister and reduce the friction, the two key things in helping a blood blister heal and lowering the chances of infection. Be sure to use a sterile dressing, and change it regularly.
Before applying a dressing clean the blister and surrounding area.
Continue your blood blister treatment until the area heals completely. If the blister is extraordinarily large, make an appointment with your doctor. These blisters do sometimes need to be drained, and it is best to do so under professional supervision to prevent infection.
Decide if it is best to drain the blood blister. Although blood blisters will heal on their own, and should be left to do this in most cases, there are times when draining them might be the best option. For example, if it is collecting a lot of blood and causing a lot of pain. Or if it is getting so big it is likely to tear anyway. Think about if you really need to drain it, and err on the side of caution.
This is especially the case with blood blisters, which require more careful treatment than normal blisters.
If you do decide to drain it, you have to careful and methodological in order to limit the chances of infection.
Due to the risk of infection, you should never drain a blood blister if you have a condition such as HIV, heart disease or cancer.
Prepare to lance the blood blister. If you have decided that you need to drain the blood blister you need to ensure you do not infect it. Wash your hands, and the area where the blister is, thoroughly with soap and water before you begin. Next sterilize a needle with rubbing alcohol. You are going to use this needle to lance the blister. (Never use a straight pin – they are less sharp than a needle, and sometimes have bur on the end.) 
Lance and drain the blood blister. Carefully and gently puncture the edge of the blister with the needle. The fluid will begin to drain out of the hole you have made. You can apply very gentle pressure to help it on its way if necessary.
Clean up and dress the drained blood blister. Now apply an antiseptic (assuming you have no allergies) such as betadine, to the blister. Clean around the blister and dress it with a sterile dressing. Once you have done this you should avoid pressure or friction on the blister as much as possible. To ward off potential infection you should observe it closely and regularly change the dressing.
Drain it carefully. If the blister bursts or tears as a result of pressure or friction you need to act quickly to clean it up in order to prevent infection. Begin by carefully draining the fluid from the blister if it has burst.
Clean it and apply an antiseptic. Washing the area thoroughly should be followed by the application of an antiseptic ointment (allergies permitting), just like if you had drained the blister yourself. Avoid using alcohol or iodine directly on the blister, because these substances could delay the healing process.
Leave the skin intact. After draining the fluid take care to leave the extra skin intact, carefully smoothing it over the raw area of skin. This provides additional protection for the blister and facilitates the healing process. Don’t pick away at the skin around the edges of the blister.
Dress it with a clean bandage. Applying a clean bandage to the blister is very important in the prevention of infections. The bandage should provide sufficient pressure to avoid further blood vessel ruptures, but should not be so tight that it impedes circulation to the area. Change the bandage daily after cleaning the area. You should allow your blister around a week to heal.
Watch carefully for signs of infection while caring for your blood blister. If the infection becomes severe, your doctor may prescribe oral antibiotics to treat the infection completely. It is important to clean and dress the blister well in order to lessen the chances of suffering an infection.
If you begin to feel generally unwell with a fever or high temperature this could be an indicator of an infection.
Look for increased pain, swelling or redness around the blister. Signs of an infection include redness and swelling around the site, or soreness that develops long after the blister occurs. Keep a close eye on the blister for these symptoms and take appropriate measures.
Look for red streaks extending from the blister. If you can see red streaks moving away from your blister this could be an indicator of a serious infection that has spread to the lymph system. Lymphangitis often occurs when the viruses and bacteria of an infected wound extend into the channels of the lymphatic system.
Other symptoms of lymphangitis include swollen lymph nodes (glands), chills, fever, loss of appetite, and a general malaise.
If you are experiencing these symptoms contact a doctor immediately.
Look for drainage of pus and fluid from the blister. Pus discharge is another indicator of a potentially infected blood blister. Look out for yellow and green coloured pus or cloudy fluid gathering in the blister or draining out from it.
Weight loss generally occurs when the body expends more calories than it takes in. That means, you have to burn off or eat fewer calories that you consume through meals and snacks. Many people cut calories from their diet and burn calories through exercise to achieve weight loss. Working out on a regular basis is helpful for weight loss, but may not be practical for some people due to health conditions, time restraints, or lack of interest. However, research shows that when it comes to weight
Some English speakers communicating with wikiHow editors from the U.K. will need to know just a little more about the lingo. Note that some of these terms are also used in parts of the British Commonwealth such as Australia and New Zealand.
A biscuit is a cookie. A British person would only call chocolate-chip biscuits a ‘cookie’.
Scones are a baked item made of firm dough. They are neither soft like bread or crisp like a cookie or a biscuit but are somewhere in between. They can be sweet or savoury and are eaten topped or filled as appropriate.
Jelly is a gelatin dessert (Jello), the type given with ice cream in hospital; fruit preserves are jam.
Learn the different terms for parts of a building:
The ground floor is the same as the American first floor.
A lift is an elevator.
A bedsit is a one-room flat (efficiency apartment) that serves as a bedroom and a living area.
A flat is the general term for an apartment.
Study these terms for when you are on the move:
The boot is the trunk of the car.
The wing is the fender of the car.
The bonnet is the hood of the car.
However, a trunk call, is a long-distance (on a trunk-line) phone call but the term is not associated with automobiles at all as one might be lead to believe. Trunk call is not used in modern British English.
A roundabout is a traffic circle.
The colours of traffic lights are called red, amber (not yellow) and green.
A lorry is a truck (not necessarily a “pick-up truck”). They are, more often than not, the type that carry goods.
The sidewalk is called the pavement or the footpath (unpaved walkway).
Petrol is gasoline (e.g., “Can we stop at the petrol station?”).
Avoid embarrassment of not understanding these differences:
A bum is a derrière/posterior, not a homeless person.
Spell and pronounce ass as “arse”.
Do not call your “bum” your fanny. In the U.K., a “fanny” is a word meaning the female, external genitalia (vulva)!
A “fag” is a cigarette. (The British are well aware of the American meaning.)
While thanks to American culture, “faggot” is sometimes used as the derogatory name for homosexuals (avoid in polite company), in UK “fagot/faggot” can be used to mean “a cigarette, bundle of firewood, a chopped meatball,” or “a bundle of anything”, though this is an obscure usage.
The “loo”, “bog”, “WC/water closet”, or just “toilet” is the American English “bathroom” (e.g. “Where’s the loo?”), though if you say you’re going to the bathroom, people will get the idea.
A rubber is a pencil eraser, as well as meaning a condom.
“I’m stuffed” means “I’m full”. The word stuffed can also be interpreted in a negative or insulting manner depending on context (e.g. “Go get stuffed.” is a bit more polite than “F**k off.”, having roughly the same meaning).
Remember when throwing something away that:
Rubbish is garbage or trash and goes in the rubbish bin if it is inside, or a dustbin if you mean the large outside receptacle.
A trash bag is called a bin liner or bin bag.
Use these terms when talking about clothing:
Trainers are sneakers,
Wellingtons (Wellington boots, wellies, boots) are calf-length rubber (or plastic) waterproof boots and have nothing to do with beef. They are named after the Duke of Wellington.
Pants in England are worn underneath your trousers or jeans, just like American panties. While the British may understand what you mean, due to the invasion of American culture, they will likely find the mental image this conjures amusing and may call you out on it, also called “knickers”.
Tights, or the older term stockings, are pantyhose.
Finally, study these terms which may cause confusion:
The phrases “taking the mickey” and “taking the piss” mean making fun of or teasing.
The phrase “on your knees” means to show respect, beg, or even plead,
To ring is to call on the phone (e.g. “I’ll ring you later”).
A pram or buggy is a baby stroller.
A trolley is a buggy used for shopping.
A dummy (short for “dummy teat”) is a pacifier.
A lolly is a popsicle.
A mobile or mobile phone is a cellphone.
A bodge or botch is a poor job (or repair) that just about works.
A brolly is short for an umbrella. Very occasionally called a “gamp” after a character in a Dickens novel.
A gone on holiday is a vacation.
A torch is a flashlight.
Maths is the shortened mass noun for mathematics, American “math”.
Washing-up liquid is dish detergent.
An aerial is a TV or radio antenna.
Anti-clockwise is counter-clockwise.
The phone is engaged means that the phone line is busy.
Punt in the UK refers to a flat-bottomed boat with a square-cut bow, designed for use in small rivers or other shallow water. Punting refers to boating in a punt. In America, especially in American Football, a punt is when you clear the ball down the field. That was the joke used on Emma Watson by David Letterman (“Here, we do that on 4th and long”). The English equivalent is a drop kick, but the mechanics are different. A punt in rugby is a kick in which the ball is hit BEFORE touching the ground. It’s also slang for ‘a bet’ or a gamble, as in ‘I took a punt on it not raining tonight’, ‘I had a punt on a horse race’.
“Football” is soccer. The American game is called American football, and is viewed as a second-rate version of rugby.
“Hockey” is field hockey. “Ice hockey” is the other one American hockey.
“Fit” is used as attractive/sexy, amongst the young, though also means healthy or in shape.
“Mental” is used to say something or someone is out of the blue/something different/mad, but not necessarily in a negative context, i.e: “The girl I met last night was completely ‘mental’ “.
Drunk, “I’m going to get absolutely hammered tonight.””He’s mullered.” “You’re off your face.” “shit-faced” (not polite) “trollied” “pissed” or “pished”, also, means drunk.
Annoyed would be described as “pissed off”.
“Piss off” is another term for “go away”
“All right?”, “Hi”, “Hey” are used as “hello”.
“Mate” is used as “friend”.
“F**k” is used in a wide range of expressions. Do not use it, if you are trying to make a good impression unless a lot of people are saying it — and it appears as if it’s being accepted there. Even then, limit the crude/rude words, especially when you are among strangers.
While wanker is used in some humor in the US, but as a reference to “someone who masturbates”, it’s derogatory. Again, don’t use this in polite company.
Cussing is known as swearing. It’s very prevalent in some communities and absent in others. The same person may cuss up a storm at one place, and not say one such word in a more polite place. The rules vary greatly. When in doubt, keep it clean. Nothing is more likely to offend than a misplaced swear word!
Where ever you go in the U.K. there are different accents. Some say Geordies (people who live in the Newcastle/Northumberland area) have their own language!
Need to build an emergency shelter in the snow? Do you intend to camp out in the snow on a ski trek? Or are you trying to build the best snow fort your town has ever seen? Just want to relax? No matter what your reason is, make sure you follow each step carefully so your snow cave won’t collapse on top of you. If you’re willing to put in a few hours of hard work, and the snow conditions are right, you can make a snow cave to be proud of.
Avoid areas of rockfall or windy slopes. Take care not to dig a snow cave under the path of a potential avalanche or rockfall. Slopes with the wind blowing against them could be dangerous if you are staying overnight, as blowing snow could clog the entrance tunnel and block access to the outside air.
Find an area with deep snow. If you can find a snowdrift at least five feet (1.5m) deep, a lot of your work will be done for you. Look for areas where the wind has blown the snow against a slope. Keep in mind you’ll also need an area large enough to house however many people you have. A ten foot (3 m) diameter cave is comfortable for two or three people.
Test the consistency of the snow. Light, powdery snow may be difficult to work with, and is more likely to collapse. Fortunately, snow tends to harden once disturbed, so if you have the time to pile it up and wait for it to harden, you will likely still be able to form it into a snow cave.
If conditions aren’t right, consider a trench instead. If you are in an emergency situation, one alternative is to dig a trench in the snow and use a tarp to cover it. Prop the tarp up with ski poles or branches stuck in the snow. This is easier and faster to dig, but will not provide the same warmth as a snow cave, and could become buried in a snowstorm.
Check that you have the clothing and equipment you need. Warm, waterproof clothing is essential if you are out in the wilderness. Consider removing one or two dry under-layers of clothing before you begin working so you have something to change into if your clothing gets wet while digging. As for equipment, a compact snow shovel or two will make the snow cave’s construction much easier. A non-smoke-producing light source is useful for overnight stays, but a candle or other small flame source can be used if you remember to create a ventilation hole.
Ventilation holes are described further on in this article.
Find a friend to help. Having at least two people build a cave together is highly recommended. Keep one person outside of the cave with a spare shovel at all times. This way, if the cave collapses during the digging, the person on the outside can shovel away the snow to rescue the person trapped inside.
Work slowly but methodically. Work in shifts if you have more than one person, and take breaks for eating and drinking. Working slowly but efficiently, without breaking a sweat, will keep you warmer and safer than trying to rush the job. Sweating can cause heat loss, which increases the risk of hypothermia.
Pile up the snow if necessary. Unless the snowdrifts in your area are deep enough already, you’ll need to shovel the snow into a pile at least five feet (1.5m) tall, and large enough to fit the number of people it will be sheltering.
A quick way to pile up snow is to find a short slope and use your shovel to push the snowdrift down to the base of the slope. Beware of taller slopes with additional snowdrifts higher up, however, as your snow cave could be buried in an avalanche.
Pack the snow firmly. Pack the snow pile or snowdrift by stomping on it with snowshoes or laying a plywood board over it and stomping on that. If the snow is light and powdery, you may wish to pack it down several times as you create the snow pile, in addition to a final pack when the pile is tall enough.
Allow two or more hours for the cold air to harden your snow pile. This makes the snow firmer and will reduce the risk of the cave from collapsing in on you while you dig it out. Waiting at least two hours is recommended, and you may need to wait up to 24 hours if the snow is powdery and dry.
Dig a tunnel into the snow. If you made a snow pile, dig a tunnel easily wide enough to crawl through and several feet deep, sloping upward. If you are digging into a deep snowdrift, dig a trench 5 or more feet down for you to stand in, then dig a tunnel at the base of the trench. You may find this easier if you have a compact snow shovel, available at backpacking or mountaineering stores.
If you are building a snow cave for fun and don’t mind taking extra time, you can avoid some discomfort by digging a “doorway” several feet tall instead of a tunnel. Once you’ve completed the snow cave, wall up most of the doorway with additional snow, leaving a tunnel to exit through.
Stick ski poles or branches into the snow pile as a guideline. Stick these objects about 12–18 inches (30–46cm) into the snow pile. While digging out the snow cave from the inside, stop when you encounter these objects. Without this guideline, you may accidentally dig the ceiling too thin and expose your snow cave to the elements, or even cause a collapse.
Hollow out the dome of the cave. Shovel snow from the center of the pile or snowdrift out through your tunnel. Once you’ve hollowed out enough room for your whole body at the end of the tunnel, you can stay there and use your feet to push the snow through the tunnel.Make sure the ceiling of the snow cave remains at least 1 foot (0.3m) thick to minimize the chance of collapse. The sides should be several inches (8 or more cm) thicker than the ceiling.
Try to make the floor of the cave higher than the entrance. This will keep the sleeping area warm as the cold air gathers in the entrance tunnel.
In freezing temperatures, strengthen the cave by pouring water over the outside. If the temperature is below freezing and you have water to spare, pour water over the outside of the cave. This will freeze into ice and create a sturdier structure.
Never pour water over the cave if the temperature is above freezing.
Smooth the inside roof and walls to prevent dripping. Scrape the walls and roof of the cave to make it smooth. Irregular, bumpy surfaces will drip water onto the cave floor, instead of directing water down the walls to gather around the edges.
If dripping is still a problem, carve grooves leading down the walls.
Mark the outside of the cave. Use brightly colored gear or conspicuously placed branches to mark the edge of your cave. This may help people find the cave again, and stop them from walking on the roof and causing a collapse.
If you are in an emergency situation awaiting rescue, make sure the gear is visible from the air, not hidden underneath trees or other obstructions.
Carve in benches and sleeping areas as needed. The higher the benches/sleeping platforms are, the better, as cold air will sink below the bench keeping you warmer. You may wish to create shelves for easier gear storage, and a trench to make sitting or standing easier.
Create ventilation holes. Snow caves can become quite insulated from the outside air, especially if moisture from your breath creates an icy layer on the inside wall. To prevent suffocation, use a ski pole or other long object to create an angled hole or two at the slanting edge of the roof. Make sure this hole goes all the way through the roof.
Because ventilation holes will cause some warm air to escape, you may wish to cover the hole with a snowball or other object, then remove it if the air feels stuffy or anyone feels dizzy. Remove the object before you go to sleep.
Cover the ground with insulating material. Gather pine branches to place on the floor of the cave, to slow the escape of warmth through the ground. Sleep on camping pads, but be aware that inflatable pads may not keep you warm in cold weather.
Move your shovels inside. While staying in the cave, always make sure you have shovels inside with you so you can dig yourself out in case of collapse or a blocked entrance. Shovel the entrance out regularly during a blizzard.
If too much warm air is escaping through the entrance, block it with a backpack or other easily removed object. Do not wall yourself up.This will also help you hide from rapid animals such as mountain lions and bears.
Always leave the entrance uncovered if you have a candle or other flame. Even using a small cooking stove or candle can be lethal, as it can lead to a buildup of carbon monoxide. Carbon monoxide is heavier than air and cannot escape through the air holes at the top.
If you plan to sleep several days in your snow cave, make sure to scrape an inch or two of melted snow off of the walls after each night. This keeps the snow porous and lets moisture escape to the outside instead of gathering inside the cave and soaking the people inside.
Building a snow cave is hard work. Be sure to have others to help share the load and have one person in charge of preparing energy-rich, hot food to supply the working team with.
Building a fire or running a stove inside is not recommended, as it uses up oxygen and produces dangerous gas. It can also cause the snow to melt, then freeze into a layer of ice. This traps moisture in the cave, soaking the inhabitants.
Junk foods like potato chips, candy cookies, and soda may make you feel momentarily happy, but they are terrible for your health. Unfortunately, kicking the junk food habit is easier said than done for many people. However, there are some easy steps that you can take to stop eating junk food. Keep reading to learn about the steps you can take to stop eating junk food.
Stop buying junk food. Keeping junk food around when you are trying to avoid it is a recipe for failure. If you have lots of junk food on hand, you will be much more likely to eat it. Stop buying junk food and keep it out of your house, car, and office.
Buy healthy food only. Buy whole foods like fruits, vegetables, lean meats, milk, eggs, and whole grains.
To steer clear of unhealthy choices, stick to the outskirts of the grocery store and look for foods with five ingredients or less. Choosing foods on the outer ring of the grocery store or with five ingredients or less is an easy way to make sure that you are making healthy choices.
Keep plenty of healthy snacks on hand. The more healthy food that is readily available for you to choose from, the easier it will be for you to keep yourself from chowing down on junk.
Keep granola bars, fresh fruit, almonds, and low fat yogurt in your refrigerator and always stash a couple of snacks in your car or purse.
Keep healthy convenience foods on hand. Stock your freezer with frozen vegetables. Stock your pantry with canned beans, tomatoes, whole grain pasta, brown rice, and other healthy staples so that you can easily throw together a pasta primavera or pot of rice and beans. Cooking dinner at home will save you money and it will take about the same amount of time as going through a drive through.
Avoid snacking in settings that cause you to make bad choices. Some environments have been show to increase your likelihood for turning to junk food.
For example, if you know that you are more likely to turn to junk food while watching television, have your snack in the kitchen instead.
Eat plenty of healthy food early in the day. The more healthy food you eat early on in the day, the less chance you will binge on junk food later on in the day when your willpower is lower. Start your day with a big healthy breakfast, have a healthy snack like fruit and yogurt mid-morning, and eat a healthy, hearty lunch.
Chew sugar-free mint gum when you get a craving for junk food. Chewing on a piece of mint gum will distract you from your craving. As an added bonus, chewing a piece of mint gum will also make anything that you eat after chewing the gum taste kind of weird, so you will be less likely to continue eating it.
Vary your food choices. Having plenty of variety in your diet will help to keep you satisfied so that you will be less likely to seek out junk food.
Pair crunchy items like carrots with something creamy like hummus or peanut butter to add variety into your snacks.
Drink plenty of water. Water helps you to feel full and helps balance your blood sugar. Drink plenty of water throughout the day to keep yourself from reaching for junk food. Staying hydrated with water will also make you less likely to reach for a can of soda or some other type of unhealthy sugary beverage.
Buy a cookbook with easy healthy recipes. Knowing how to cook healthy food that you actually want to eat will help keep you from turning to junk food at meal times. If you are new to healthy cooking, buy yourself a cookbook with easy to follow, appetizing healthy recipes.
Distract yourself when a craving hits. Developing other ways to deal with your junk food cravings is also important to kicking your habit. Go for a walk, play with your pet, call a friend, or work on a creative project. Cravings will usually go away if you distract yourself for about 20-30 minutes.
Analyze your desire for junk food when cravings strike. Take a moment to ask why you are craving a specific food. Are you actually hungry or are you bored? Other emotions can make you want to reach for junk food as well. Examine how you are feeling and talk to someone or write about how you are feeling to deal with your emotions rather than burying them in food.
None of us are perfect. Sometimes, arguments happen even in the strongest, happiest relationships. But whether you’ve just had an argument with a friend, a family member, or a significant other, there are steps you can take to make up with them afterwards. The main goal will always be the same: let the other person know you regret what happened, and reassure them about how much they mean to you.
Wait to talk. While the old adage “Never go to bed angry” is common folk wisdom, sometimes, it’s actually better to wait to talk it out. If you try to talk with the other person while either of you is still angry, neither of you will be receptive to listening.
Manage your impulses. It’s perfectly normal to feel upset with the other person after an argument, and it can feel natural to want to hurt them in some way, such as lashing out with snide or sarcastic comments or pointing out their failures. These actions aren’t constructive, however, and should be avoided when you approach the other person to make up.
Separate your feelings from the issue. How you felt about whatever caused the argument between you is different than the actual issue (or issues) that may have initiated the argument. Keeping them separate in your mind will allow you to be honest about your emotions and still have a productive conversation about what happened.
Avoid discounting the other person’s feelings. Don’t discount feelings by saying things like “You shouldn’t have felt that way” or “That’s not right.” Accept that the other person did feel the way that they did.
Avoid mind-reading. As you prepare to approach the other person to make up, don’t assume that you know how the argument made them feel. Try to go into the situation without preconceived ideas of what the other person thought or felt, and don’t “read in between the lines” of what they tell you.
Write down your feelings. If you’re still upset about the argument, or you feel like you have some very emotional things to say to the other person, try writing them down first. You won’t share this with the other person: the point is to explore your own feelings and try to clarify them before sharing them with someone else.
Choose your moment wisely. Try to avoid approaching the other person to make up when they’re experiencing a lot of stress or heightened emotion (for example, a big project at work, a personal issue, or a major holiday). Wait for a time when they have fewer other worries.
Arrange to meet with them in person, if possible. It is important that you be able to talk with each other face-to-face if at all possible. While the statistic that 90% of human communication is non-verbal isn’t exactly true, non-verbal cues do play a huge part in how we interpret each other’s words and actions. It is helpful to be able to talk in person so that you can clarify what you’ve said and keep an eye on how the other person appears to be responding.
Frame your invitation as an offer, not a demand. You don’t want the other person to feel as though they’re obligated to talk with you. Instead, express your regret over the argument and invite them to express their feelings in a conversation.
For example, you could send the other person an email or even a handwritten card or letter that says, “I’m sorry about our fight. I’d love to talk about it so I can understand your feelings better. Would you like to talk about it with me?”
Give the other person space to talk. While you do want to convey your feelings about the argument, you also want to make sure the other person feels heard. Offer the other person the space to share their perceptions about the argument.
This also allows you to gain a better understanding of how the other person sees your role in the argument, which will help you as you form your apology.
For example, you could say something like, “I’m so sorry I hurt you. Please help me understand what you were feeling.”
Listen to what the other person has to say. If your feelings were hurt during the argument, it’s fine to express that. However, you should first listen to what the other person wants to say. Listening to them communicates that you value their feelings.